We don’t think about it much. We are so focused on the baby and the new mom, and rightfully so, that we forget that on that baby’s first day in this world a man becomes a father. So for this Father’s Day, I am taking a look back and saying #thanksbaby for making me a dad.
Becoming a father
I still remember all the little details about when I became a father. It was one of the happiest days of my life. It was also one of the scariest, I mean there are things a man just can not unsee no matter how hard you may try. When she was finally born, and the ordeal was finally over, I saw her and couldn’t believe it. There was this little person.
I thought to myself as I looked at her, “I made this.” Ok, I admit, my wife did most of the heavy lifting in making the baby, but this post is about me. When that baby unleashed her first of many many cries it was official I had become a father.
Once they cleaned up, and her mother stopped hogging her, I finally got the chance to hold my daughter. She was perfect. Just like her sister would be a few years later. I can’t even begin to describe the joy and love I felt. I was a father, but I haven’t become a dad yet.
It’s said there is a difference between becoming a father and a dad. On that day my older daughter was born I became a father but I wasn’t a dad. I haven’t earned that title yet. Anyone can make a kid. It takes more to be a Dad. Being a Dad is not just protecting and caring for your kids although that is part of it. It’s the little stuff. The things you change about yourself and what you are now willing to do for your kids.
I started being a Dad when we took her home. I would make faces, dance, and sing. Basically, I started acting like a complete idiot. I would do anything just to hold her attention and make her smile. Even now, seven years later I am not done. Just this morning I was hiding under a blanket in a fort made of couch cushions because my younger daughter decided the cat was out to get us.
Please don’t think I have never made a fool of myself before. But this time I was doing it on purpose! Things I would have never thought to do I do now without a second though because it makes my girls happy. I stopped worrying about being cool and from that point on I was just a Dad.
Now, seven years later, my daughter joined with your sister are the best things in my life. That is why I want to say #Thanksbaby. You two made me better. Their mother and I may have mad them, but they made me a Dad, and I can’t think of anything else I would rather be.