The Perfect Family – #HowWeFamily

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Family isn’t who you love, but how you love.

What is the perfect family?  Is it the family we see presented over and over again on sitcoms, in movies and in advertising? You know the family I am talking about the “average American family”. The perfect family consists of a Mom, a Dad, 3 kids, a dog and a white picket fence.In this family, Dad goes to work while Mom stays home to raise the kids. But if this is the perfect family, if this is the ideal, where does that leave every other type of family?  If you want to know my thought, I believe the perfect average family isn’t that average after all.

Take my family. We aren’t “perfect.”  We have some of the components. Yes, we have the Mom and Dad. We have 2 kids instead of three, but our younger daughter just turned three and is such a handful right now I am going to count her twice. We don’t have a dog but we do have an incredibly needy cat.


So far so good. We aren’t quiet “perfect” but we are close. This is where the similarities end. I’m the Dad and I don’t go to work. My career is here in the house. It is my wife who brings home the bacon for our family. Every day, she gets up and goes into work. I stay home to take care of our girls. I do all of the things all those tv moms do. I make the lunches, I do the dishes, I do their hair. It is me you will most likely talk to at our kid’s doctors’ appointments.  I am a stay at home dad.

A couple of years ago my wife and I decided we were going to break away from the “perfect family mold.” We were distressed by how much time our older daughter was spending in daycare. Both of our careers demanded that we travel a lot and be away from home. This meant long hours in daycare for our than 2 year old. The decision was made that one of was going to stay home.

To help make the decision a little bit easier my wife received a promotion soon after. That promotion, and the raise that accompanies it, meant I was going to be staying home. It also meant that we weren’t going to have what some others say is “perfection.”

We are not the sitcom style family. But we do help demonstrate the problem with a so-called “perfect” family. It just isn’t perfect for everyone. Every family is different. Every family is special. It doesn’t matter who makes up the family. You could have more kids or less. You could have a dad or only a mom. You could have two dads or two moms. Maybe in your family it’s grandma or an aunt or uncle raising the kids.

The point is there is no perfect family. It doesn’t matter who makes up your family. It doesn’t matter where you live or who does what. It doesn’t matter if you’re different. What matters is that there is joy, love, and security. Your family doesn’t have to be anything like the one you see on TV.  Your family is perfect just the way they are.

In our house, perfection is two happy kids, a mom that goes off to work and a dad who stays home and will play princess dress up and tea party all day just to see those sweet smiles. That is #HowWeFamily. How about you? Share your family story and why you’re proud of who they are with TYLENOL® on Twitter or Instagram using the hashtag #HowWeFamily. To learn more visit the #HowWeFamily site here.



Bryan Alkire

Bryan is a Stay at Home Dad from Kalamazoo MI. Every day he is lucky enough to experience the joys and struggles of raising his two young girls. His older daughter, a brain tumor survivor, has just started school. His younger daughter is a ball of energy that always keeps him on his toes. He chronicles his adventures with his girls and beautiful wife on his blog When not watching the girls he plays golf (badly), enjoys craft beer, and working on that book he keeps promising to get done.

One thought on “The Perfect Family – #HowWeFamily

  • June 8, 2015 at 7:02 pm

    My 30 year old daughter works at Kellogg’s and has a beautiful 1 1/2 year old little princess. Her husband is a stay at home DAD! And he’s GREAT at it!! :-D.
    As an “at home mom” myself, raising 4 now grown children, I remember those long days and short years with tears in my eyes. I WORKED –hard! When people would ask me,”Do you work?” My reply was usually,”Do you mean do I earn a paycheck? Nope. But YES, I WORK hard.” ;). My paychecks a were intrinsic: dandelions, smiles, and impromptu hugs. All of my children were worth the sacrifices of living on one income.


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