Benefits of Having Just Girls

My wife and I have two girls, we are very happy, and no we are not trying for a boy. I am perfectly happy having only girls. I am outnumbered, naked babies everywhere, half my house is pink, and no one believes me when I say I didn’t leave the seat up, but I don’t mind.  Being the only guy isn’t that bad. In fact, there are a lot of advantages to having only girls. Like;

– Having children both of the same gender means everything can be shared. Clothing can be passed down, jewelry can be shared. If we buy something gender specific, we don’t need to buy a boy one and a girl one. The girls can share, now if they will share is another story, but it is always a possibility. Also my stuff, unlike my wife’s, is off-limits. My girls have no interest in my razor, or deodorant.  My wife’s make up? They can’t wait to get their hands on it.

– The girls are in similar activities. While not true for every pair of sisters, both my girls share similar interests. That means only one event instead of two. They both want to be in gymnastics, both like dance and both like cheerleading. Luckily they are close enough in age that it works. When you have boys and girls, even if they like the same activity, often boys and girls are separated. That means two different events and more time spent sitting in the bleachers waiting for my kids turn.

– Whenever we go out and the girls have to go to the bathroom, it’s my wife’s job. I hate taking the girls into the men’s room. Very few men’s rooms are structured to be little girl friendly. When I am out with the girls alone, I take them. But the minute I am with my wife, this is her job. That means I get to enjoy my dinner without constant breaks to visit the facilities.

– My girls love me and aren’t afraid to show it. They hug me and kiss me. I know boys do this too, but they grow out of it sooner. I see my friends with older kids. Those with boys get far less affection than those with girls. The boys think it is gross or embarrassing. My friends with girls can still get a hug. I know sooner or later, male or female, my kids will stop being so affectionate. Far too soon the hug and excitement to see me will be replaced by embarrassment. But if having girls mean I can push that back even a few months I am putting that in the win column.

– I get to shower alone. If my wife wants to take a shower she has to be sure she is far away from the girls or one of them will want to join her. Then she spends her shower trying to keep whichever kid made her way into the shower from hurting themselves. You would never know it but both soap, and shampoo, like almost anything, can be a dangerous weapon in the hands of a two-year-old. When it is my turn? Not a word. I get to take a nice relaxing shower in peace. My wife is so jealous, I love it.

– The big one. My wife has to do THE TALK.  She gets to handle the tough and uncomfortable questions. Which is probably a good thing. My wife is very mature and can handle a delicate subject like this. Me? I’m somewhat less mature.  It wouldn’t go well. It would be uncomfortable and probably end with me telling them to go ask their mother anyway. Luckily, I don’t have to worry about it. This falls in the “mom” camp.

I know that once they hit their teens when they start dating, and if they ever get married, I might not be as happy to only have girls. It is sure to be very stressful, and if they are anything like their mother expensive. I have decided that  I will cross that bridge when I get there. For now I have to say,  having only girls is pretty sweet.

Photo From Donnie Ray Jones – – CC



Bryan Alkire

Bryan is a Stay at Home Dad from Kalamazoo MI. Every day he is lucky enough to experience the joys and struggles of raising his two young girls. His older daughter, a brain tumor survivor, has just started school. His younger daughter is a ball of energy that always keeps him on his toes. He chronicles his adventures with his girls and beautiful wife on his blog When not watching the girls he plays golf (badly), enjoys craft beer, and working on that book he keeps promising to get done.

3 thoughts on “Benefits of Having Just Girls

  • February 16, 2015 at 1:06 pm

    I bet my hubby would agree, we have two girls as well! (PS – my family lives in Dearborn, and no I’m not stalking you I swear!)

  • February 16, 2015 at 2:25 pm

    I too have two daughters. I have never missed having boys.
    . . . . . oh, and I’m a fellow Michigander. Lovely weather, eh?

    • February 16, 2015 at 2:31 pm

      Lovely might not be the word I would have chosen. on the bright side it was at least in positive numbers today.


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