A Thank You to My Wife and Working Parents Everywhere

To My Wife,

Thank you. I really mean it, thank you.  Sometimes, as I focus on my life as a Stay At Home Dad and the sacrifices I have made in this role, I lose sight of the sacrifices you have made.  I get wrapped up in the kids, their appointments and play dates. I worry about my wants and needs and forget just how much you do.  I don’t say it enough but thank you.

Thank you for getting up and get ready for work. Another day of dealing with the meetings, the people, and the endless email.  Another drive to work leaving before the sun even comes up and sometimes not getting home until after it sets. Thank you for putting in the long hours needed to be successful, even when I know you would rather be home with the girls (and maybe a glass of wine).

Thank you for the sacrifices you make. Skipping lunch so you won’t have to stay late. Working after the kids go to bed. Staying up late working on your laptop sacrificing both your sleep and your free time, just so you can get out of work early tomorrow to take one of our girls to dance class.

Thank you for giving me a break. I know how tired you are when you get home. Like me, you had a long stressful day. ( Oddly even though you work in an office, we both spend our days listening to whining and dealing with poop.)  When you get home you are always willing to take these little monsters off my hands for a little bit so I can get a breather, even if it means you don’t get a break until their heads hit the pillows.

Thank you for supporting us. You work hard, but you always say it is our money. We spend it together. You may laugh when I want a new iPhone or some other gadget. But you find a way to get me some of them. In many cases that means waiting and saving so we can afford it but you always make sure I can get some of the things I want too, even if the work I do (the kids) doesn’t bring in a pay check.

Thank you for allowing me to stay home. I get to watch our girls grow up. I get to be there for every moment and memory. Many people aren’t lucky enough to have this opportunity. Both parents have to work, or they are a single parent. They don’t have this opportunity and they, much like you, miss out on all the little things that happen as kids grow up. I get to see these things,  and I know that I do that because of you.

I know you love your job and are proud of your career. You worked hard and deserve your success.  I also know how much more the girls mean to you then any thing you have accomplished at work. I know how much it tears you up to be gone for weeks at a time when you have to travel for work. You could get an easier job something that doesn’t require as much of you, but you don’t. You do this so our kids can have the type of childhood we want for them.

I am not good at letting you know how much what you do means to the girls and I. While we may not say it nearly enough, Thank you. Thank you for everything.  I want you to know how much we love you and how much we appreciate you. I know at times with our wants and needs we can come off as ungrateful, and a little self-absorbed. So I wanted to say thank you. Thank you for everything.

Now about that new iPhone…..

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Bryan Alkire

Bryan is a Stay at Home Dad from Kalamazoo MI. Every day he is lucky enough to experience the joys and struggles of raising his two young girls. His older daughter, a brain tumor survivor, has just started school. His younger daughter is a ball of energy that always keeps him on his toes. He chronicles his adventures with his girls and beautiful wife on his blog www.kzoodad.com. When not watching the girls he plays golf (badly), enjoys craft beer, and working on that book he keeps promising to get done.

6 thoughts on “A Thank You to My Wife and Working Parents Everywhere

  • November 6, 2014 at 12:48 am

    As a stay at home mom I can totally relate to your letter. I feel the same way towards my husband, who just happened to work a 12 hour shift today to earn a little overtime. I think I’ll have to give him an extra special thank you tomorrow.

    • November 6, 2014 at 7:03 am

      I always see a lot of testaments to stay at home parents I just didn’t want my wife or other at work parents to think they have been forgotten. Thanks for reading.

  • November 12, 2014 at 12:27 am

    Great letter! As a work-from-home dad I too love that my wife goes off to work every day. Sometimes I feel a bit lazy sitting on the couch with my coffee watching the morning news with my two year old, so I make sure to tell her often how much I appreciate her working for us.

  • December 1, 2014 at 11:30 pm

    Your letter is just perfect. Our kids are 22 and 20 and I still thank my husband for working so hard for so many years so that I could be with them. The best thing is, is that since the kids are working much more they now realize how much time, energy and effort it takes to earn a paycheck and they now thank him too.


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